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Digital Sisterhood Network (DSN) is a media channel that celebrates women in social media and technology through leadership, lifestyle, and living well initiatives. DSN was established by Ananda Leeke, a lawyer turned author, artist, coach, yoga teacher, and innerpreneur, in 2010. Visit http://digitalsisterhood.wordpress.com.

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    Happy Day #7 of Digital Sisterhood Month (#DSMonth)!

    Today, Digital Sisterhood Network (DSN) is celebrating how women express the #DSMonth theme of “Creativity + Great Health = Fierce Living Women.” Many women use the practice of self-love to embrace their creativity, maintain great health, and live fiercely. One of our favorite advocates and teachers of self-love is Christine Arylo, author of Madly in Love with Me. Read the question and answer (Q&A) session below to learn more about Arylo’s self-love principles.

    Q & A with Author Christine Arylo

    DSN: Isn’t loving yourself selfish or narcissistic?

    CA: Self-love is so misunderstood. If you looked self-love up in the dictionary, yes, it is defined as conceit, vanity and narcissism but whoever came up that definition has it all wrong. People who do suffer from narcissism or excess vanity actually lack love for themselves. Their extreme self-centeredness and unawareness of their impact on others is really a cover for a deep sense of inferiority, a fear of connection and a low self-worth. Thankfully, narcissism isn’t contagious and most people don’t need to worry about being too selfish. If anything, they need to give to themselves more.  

    Loving yourself is the same as loving another person, the energy of love is just pointed in a different direction. Think of it this way, you’d never say loving your parents or friends was selfish, and neither is giving love to yourself. Imagine giving love to someone in your life that you deeply care about. Notice how good it feels to give love to that person – in all kinds of ways including affection, caring, acknowledgement, honor, compassion, etc. Now imagine taking that same energy and directing the love at yourself – giving yourself affection, care, acknowledgement, honor, compassion, etc. Same energy. Love is never selfish.

    DSN: What is self-love? What does it really mean to love yourself?

    CA:Some day I will petition the dictionary people to change the definition for self-love, but for now to set the record straight, here’s a truthful definition for self-love: Self-love is the unconditional love and respect you have for yourself that is so deep, so solid, so unwavering that you choose only situations and relationships – including the one you have with yourself – that reflect that same unconditional love and respect.

     In our culture, there are a lot of words other than self-love that people are much more comfortable using – self-esteem, self-awareness, self-care, self-worth, self-compassion – words that many people mistakenly believe are the same as self-love. While all the ideas expressed by these words are components of self-love, none alone is a synonym for self-love. Love is a specific, un-paralleled, and all-powerful vibration, and none of these aspects of self-love has that power on their own – but put them together and WOW! You’ve got a tree of self-love!

    DSN: Okay, so say I do believe that loving myself is a good idea, how do I actually do it?

    CA: Once a person gets that loving themselves is a good idea, and they get past all that fear around it being selfish or vain, they always ask, “How do I love myself?” Self-love can feel so vast and esoteric and it can get thrown around casually, “Oh, sure I love myself,” when if you were to look at that person’s life you would see the areas where they do choose love and where they don’t act lovingly towards themselves. Loving yourself isn’t black and white, as in either you are a person who does or doesn’t. It isn’t some nirvana state you master and achieve and then can just forget about. Loving yourself is a choice you make, or don’t, in every moment of every day for the rest of your life.

    The first step is to become aware of the ways in which you are a rock star at being a best friend to yourself and the ways that you have a hard time making choices and taking actions that align with love. To make this accessible and tangible for people, I teach the 10 Branches of Self-Love and guide people how to identify where they are weak so they can GROW their self-love in this place, and also how to identify where they are strong, so they can make KEEP the love flowing, and also make sure they don’t over-rely on any one branch, which will throw you out of balance.  

    DSN: You say that it’s possible to have too much self-esteem. What do you mean? 

    CA: Self-esteem is the strong belief in and regard for yourself. It is a strong confidence in your ability to do and be anything. And while we definitely want to foster self-esteem (it wasn’t that long ago that self-esteem wasn’t a common culturally acceptable ideal), self-esteem on it’s own is not enough – it’s only 1/10th of the self-love equation.

    Without self-compassion, you can have tons of self-esteem, but you will be extremely hard on yourself. We are creating a culture of hardened high achievers failing to use the power of the tools of the heart – equating confidence to strength and compassion to weakness, which just isn’t true. Today, women and children are extremely emotionally hard on themselves, driven by the unrealistic expectations to do, be and have it all. And with little training and understanding of self-compassion, they silently beat themselves up, all the while appearing like they have it all together to the outside world.

    You need all 10 branches of self-love – self awareness & honesty, self-acceptance, self-care, self-compassion & forgiveness, self-trust, self-esteem, self-empowerment, self-respect & self-honor, self-pleasure, and self-expression cared for, nurtured and fully blooming.

    DSN: How do you cultivate a strong and independent sense of self-worth?

    CA: The first stage of cultivating a really strong and independent self-worth is making sure that all 10 of your self-love branches are in a healthy state. They may not all be fully blooming, but they are headed in the right direction, which means that you need to be aware of how your life is supporting these aspects of yourself – or not – each being essential to your happiness and health.

    So as not to activate the over-achiever gene or send anyone into overwhelm, I recommend choosing one branch of self-love to focus on for a given time frame, and creating a 40-day self-love practice around it. 40-days is the minimum amount of time – as the yogi’s, brain scientists, and metaphysicians agree that is the amount of time it takes to identify and release a self-sabotaging habit. And then, if you want to replace that with a new self-loving habit, 120 days is even better.

    As you heal and grow the branches of your tree, the entire tree as well as the roots will flourish. Increasing your self-compassion will have a positive affect on your self-care and ability to value what is really important to you. Growing your self-empowerment will increase your self-expression, you will feel more seen and as a result more valued or who you truly are.

    The second stage is all about Knowing Your Worth. This doesn’t happen overnight – coming back to your true self-worth is a profound spiritual journey but there are some powerful and accessible places to start including:

    -Removing the toxins of judgment and unrealistic expectations – they gotta go!

    -Giving up Comparison and Embracing your unique divine imprint – and how valuable that is.

    -Embracing the truth of who you are, why you are here and how valuable that really is

    -Redefining success and happiness on your terms

    -Taking bold and courageous acts to get your life into alignment with your heart and soul

    -Believing the truth you were born knowing – you are enough, just as you are. There is only one you, and that too is enough.

    DSN: With all the information out there about taking care of yourself and being healthy why do women especially have such a hard time giving themselves permission to actually do the things they know they should do to take care of themselves?

    CA: Most women know what they need to do to take good care of – replenish, nourish, nurture – themselves, they just literally cannot give themselves permission to do so. It’s not the information they’re missing, it’s the permission to do what a best friend would do in an instant, tell us “Honey, take a break, take care of yourself, the rest will wait. I insist!”

    The reason most of have such a hard time following through on what we know we need, is because even though we want it, we don’t value it.  We value giving over receiving. Doing over being. Why? Because we’ve been reading from the wrong handbooks — the Self Sacrifice Handbook and the Self Esteem Handbook instead of the Self-Love Handbook. The former ascribes that we must give, and give and give to others, and then give some more, until there is nothing left. Only when we have given all we have, have we given enough. This Self-Sacrifice Handbook works from the mantra “It’s better to give than receive” rather than “It’s better to give and receive.” Hence why we have little problem giving care, nourishment, nurturing to others, but the thought of giving this love to ourselves comes with a big guilt sandwich. Driven by the belief that it’s good and honorable to give to others, and selfish to give to ourselves, it’s no wonder it’s so hard to give ourselves the care we need.

    The Self-Esteem Handbook makes matters worse by equating our value with how much we do, the more we do the better and more valuable we are. There is no chapter in this handbook about valuing ourselves based on “being,” no lessons on relaxing or how to have more impact by doing less. So when we find ourselves not doing, we start questioning our value and worth. Our value has become equated to how much we can get done in a day or a week or achieve in a lifetime legacy. So if we aren’t actively pursuing something or being busy, we feel bad, like we should be doing something.

    Next time you find yourself having trouble giving yourself permission to take care of yourself, take a b.f.f. daring act of love and ask and answer this question, ‘What do you need to take care of yourself today?” And then make sure that you receive it – no matter what! 

    DSN: Is it true that you actually got the day before Valentines Day - February 13th – officially dedicated to be the international day of self-love? What’s this all about? 

    CA: With so much attention given to February 14th and Valentines Day, and frankly a day that currently causes more suffering than happiness, I knew we needed the day before to be a day when people could take their love power back – to get that they are loved even without a romantic partner – and a day when people could fill themselves up first with love so they had extra to give.

    On February 13th, I invite people to choose one branch of self-love and make a promise to themselves that will help them grow that branch all year long. These promises give people an anchor point to come back to during their day to day life, to choose love. For example, if your branch is self-pleasure, your promise might be “I choose to have fun and do what brings me joy no matter how much work there is to do.” Or if your branch is self-care your promise could be “I promise to ask myself what I need and then take action to give that care to myself.”

    Every February, our team, Team Love goes on the road and holds self-love-a-poolza’s, and our Love Ambassadors around the world throw self-love parties of their own. Last year 500 people threw parties in 31 countries and 41 states. Which makes for a lot of people taking and keeping the promise to love themselves all year long.

     

    DISCLAIMER: This is a sponsored post written by Ananda Leeke, Founder of Digital Sisterhood Network. Leeke is currently reading and enjoying Madly in Love with Me. Her favorite quote from Arylo’s book is:

    "The ability to care for yourself requires an intimate knowledge of and concern for what you need at any given time, and an unapologetic determination to give it to yourself."

    This quote became her December wisdom thought and reminded her to take care of herself as she finishes her memoir, Digital Sisterhood: Fierce Living Online.

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    #Christine Arylo  #Madly in Love with Me  #Digital Sisterhood Month  #Digital Sisterhood Network  #self-esteem  #self-love  #self-care  #Ananda Leeke  #women  #self-help 
    Digital Sisterhood Network Headed to BlogHer Conference

    Happy August! Happy Digital Sisterhood Wednesday!

    Digital Sisterhood Network founder Ananda Leeke is headed to the BlogHer Conference to moderate the Podcasting 101 Panel on August 3 from 1:15 p.m. to 2:30 p.m. at the Hilton New York in New York City. Her co-panelists are Deborah Shane and Jasmin Singer, two amazing women who rock the web with their Internet radio and podcasting skills. Click here for more details.

    Podcasting 101 Digital Treats:

    PS: Ananda will be live tweeting throughout the conference. Follow her on Twitter @digitalsisterhd and on Cinch.fm for audio blog updates and interviews with conference participants. She will post a series of blog recaps during the week of August 6 (photos, audio blogs and videos).

    — 1 year ago
    #BlogHer  #Jasmin Singer  #Deborah Shane  #Podcasting  #Ananda Leeke 
    Guess what’s coming to the Digital Sisterhood Network in May? Digital Sisterhood Leadership Project

    May is going to be an exciting month for the Digital Sisterhood Network (DSN). Click here to learn why. The link will direct you to DSN founder Ananda Leeke’s audio blog update about the new DSN initiative, the Digital Sisterhood Leadership Project. It will have a soft launch in May that includes #DSLead Twitter chats on May 2, 9, 23, and 30 from 9:00 pm ET to 10:00 pm ET. More details about the project will be shared later today.

    Guess what’s else is happening?

    The DSN web site will feature a series of interviews with Digital Sisterhood Leaders in May, June, July, August, September, October, and November. Look for a mini celebration during Digital Sisterhood Month in December. The mega launch will be held in January 2013.

    — 1 year ago
    #DSLead  #Digital Sisterhood Leadership Project  #Digital Sisterhood Network  #Digital Sisterhood  #Ananda Leeke  #women  #leaders  #women leadership 
    #DSFierceLiving is coming to #BLISSDOM12 on February 24@2:30 pm

    Great News! Digital Sisterhood Network (DSN) founder Ananda Leeke is headed to BLISSDOM to speak about #DSFierceLiving (DSN’s 2012 theme) during her writing session, “Fierce Living from Your Creative Heart” on February 24 from 2:30 pm to 4:00 pm. See the description below.

    SESSION DESCRIPTION:

    Calling all creative women! You know who you are Ms. Artist, Collage Maker, Crafter, Dancer, Dramatic Performer, Musician, Painter, Photographer, Poet, Sculptor, and Ms. Writer. When’s the last time you allowed yourself the space to dream, imagine, and create something that inspired a deep feeling of peace, play, and fulfillment? Wait no more. During this session, you will have an opportunity to explore your inner women (also known as archetypes or personalities) and the role they play in your creativity through mindful writing exercises and discussion. The takeaways include ways to tap into your inner women’s intuition, imagination, and nurturing energy as “fierce living” growth opportunities for 2012 and beyond.

    FYI — Join #DSFierce Living Conversations on #DigitalSisterhood Wednesdays

    “Fierce Living” is the DSN’s 2012 theme. DSN founder Ananda Leeke defines Fierce Living as,

    “the mindful practice of unplugging, understanding, and unifying who I am online and offline from the inside out so I am able to express myself fully in my healthy living journey, Digital Sisterhood book writing, art, and work as a coach, digital media producer, yoga teacher, and innerpreneur.”

    DSN recognizes that Fierce Living means different things to different people. That’s why we are hosting #DSFierceLiving conversations on Facebook, Pinterest, Survey Monkey, and Twitter on #DigitalSisterhood Wednesdays in 2012.

    Here are four ways you can participate.

    1) LIKE Digital Sisterhood on Facebook, visit the page on #DigitalSisterhood Wednesdays, and share what you are doing to make fierce living a reality in your daily life.

    2) Create a #DSFierceLiving 2012 board on Pinterest and share what fierce living looks like in your life. Cross post your Pinterest link on Digital Sisterhood Facebook page. Also, tweet the link on Twitter with the hashtag #DSFierceLiving. DSN will retweet it. Click here to check out Ananda Leeke’s #DSFierceLiving Board on Pinterest.

    3) Follow @Digitalsisterhd on Twitter and participate in #DigitalSisterhood Wednesdays by tweeting your favorite digital sisters. Tweet about your acts of fierce living by using the hashtag #DSFierceLiving.

    4) Participate in #DSFierceLiving 2012 Conversation on Survey Monkey by answering six easy and fun questions about your fierce living definition, sheroes, and inspirational music.

    LINKS:

    — 2 years ago
    #Digital Sisterhood Network  #Digital Sisterhood  #DSFierceLiving  #Fierce Living  #Blissdom  #Blissdom12  #Creativity  #Women Bloggers  #Women in Social Media  #Ananda Leeke 
    Register for Digital Sisterhood Month DC Yoga Field Trips

    Yoga is a great way to release stress from our digital lives. Join Digital Sisterhood Network for two yoga field trips during Digital Sisterhood Month 2011. See the details below.  

    Things You Need to Know

    • You must REGISTER ONLINE and PAY in advance for the yoga classes at the studios.  Availability is based on a first come, first serve basis.
    • Digital Sisterhood Network did NOT make any special arrangements or secure any discounts for the yoga classes.   
    • Digital Sisterhood Network selected Embrace DCand Tranquil Space because they are women-owned yoga studios.  Faith Hunter owns Embrace DC.  Kimberly Wilson owns Tranquil Space.  Faith and Kimberely are amazing yoga teachers, writers, social do gooders, and entrepreneurs who practice digital sisterhood 100% in all they do!
    • Ananda Leeke, Digital Sisterhood Network founder, will attend both yoga classes. She’ll be wearing a Digital Sisterhood t-shirt!

    Yoga Field Trips

    1) December 2 @6:15 pm-7:15 pm - Vinyasa Flow class ($17 - for all levels) taught by Shawna Renee at Embrace DC, 1650 Columbia Road, NW, 2nd Floor, Washington, DC - 202.525.1083 (located in Adams Morgan - several blocks from Columbia Heights Metro Station on Green/Yellow Line)

    Click on the link to find, register, and pay $17 for the December 2nd class (REGISTER online in advance because the class fills up quickly):  http://embracedc.com/classes/class-schedule.

    2) December 10 @2:15 pm-3:45 pm - Yin Yang class ($18 - for all levels) taught by Danielle Polen at Tranquil Space, 1632 17th Street, NW, Washington, DC - 202.328.9642 (located several blocks from Dupont Circle Metro Station on Red Line) 

    Click on the link to find, register, and pay $18 for the December 10th class (REGISTER online in advance because the class fills up quickly):   http://www.tranquilspace.com/yoga/schedule.html.

    — 2 years ago with 3 notes
    #yoga  #Tranquil Space  #Kimberly Wilson  #Faith Hunter  #Embrace DC  #Shawna Renee  #Danielle Polen  #Digital Sisterhood Month  #Digital Sisterhood Network  #Ananda Leeke 
    Get Ready for Digital Sisterhood Month Online Yoga

    Join Ananda Leeke, a registered yoga teacher and Digital Sisterhood Network founder, for Digital Sisterhood Month 2011 online yoga classes for social media users on December 5, 12, 19, and 26 from 7:15 am to 7:30 am ET.  The classes are FREE.  Visit http://www.ustream.tv/channel/ananda-leeke-live to take the live classes. 

    The classes will include office yoga (seated poses for your neck, shoulders, back, and hips;  keyboard yoga for your hands fingers; eye yoga; and mouth yoga) and breathing exercises that social media users can use to unplug from their tech life and toys, to release stress, and to manage their time online and offline with grace and ease. You will need a chair and comfortable clothing. 

    If you miss the classes, don’t fret.  They will be recorded and available for viewing five minutes after they air. 

    — 2 years ago with 1 note
    #online yoga  #yoga  #yoga for social media users  #Digital Sisterhood Month  #social media  #office yoga  #mouth yoga  #keyboard yoga  #eye yoga  #Ananda Leeke